As a therapist I spend a good deal of time helping clients get away from asking "WHY?"
Whys are tail chasing exercises. We get a hold of a why and can't let go. As soon as you answer one why there are a dozen more. Whys keep us stuck in the same old ways of doing and thinking.
|Hemerocallis 'July Gold'|
Instead, I like them to focus on the what, when, who and how questions.
- What is working in the garden?
- What's not working?
- What am I willing to do to make changes?
- How much money, time and energy do I have for this project?
- When can I implement these changes?
- Who am I trying to please?
|Hypericum frondosum with a fly|
It's a similar issue with the woulda, coulda, shoulda thoughts that plague many a gardener!
Let them go! Trust me on this~regrets are a big energy waste.
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